How to Define Yourself [Tony Robbins]

Опубликовано: 01 Январь 1970
на канале: Self Improvement TV

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How to Define Yourself: Everyone has trouble figuring out what people are really like. People often focus on the bad things about themselves or how they compare to other people when they try to explain who they are. No one but you can tell who you are, but this article has some tips on how to look at how you define yourself and how to make it positive.

1. Finding Out Who You Are

Know who you are. Self-knowledge, especially self-knowledge without judgement, is a very important skill that can help you figure out who you are. Before you can figure out who you are as a person, you'll need to know what makes you tick and how you think.

Mindfulness means paying attention to your thoughts and noticing how they repeat themselves. For example, you may realise that you often feel like no one cares what you think and that your thoughts don't matter. Recognizing that you have these thoughts and stopping them before they start making you anxious can help you put together the important parts of who you are.

When you start paying attention to how and why you think, you'll need to practise not judging what you think. This means that you should be aware of your thought patterns and accept them, but you shouldn't be hard on yourself about them. Everyone has bad ways of thinking and doing things. You can get rid of them from your mind if you pay attention to them.

Look at how you call yourself. Once you start paying attention to how you think about yourself and the world, look for the ways you identify yourself. Check out the groups and communities you use to make up who you are. All of these things affect how you see yourself and how you define yourself.

Look at things like your religion, nationality, and sexuality to see if they help you define who you are.

Look at the roles you play, like your job, your place in your family (mother, father, sister, brother), and your status in a relationship (single, couple, etc.).

Write down your thoughts and how you see yourself. Write down your thoughts, definitions, and how they affect how you act and who you are as you find them. This will help you see how they shape how you act and who you are. You'll be able to see how you feel about yourself, which will make it easier to get rid of the bad thoughts.

Talking to and working with a clinical psychologist can be a great way to find out how you think and act in patterns. They can also help you deal with the bad things you think about yourself.

2. Making your own definition of yourself

Write down the things you don't want to be. Taking note of them and writing them down will help you let go of them. The more you talk about them, the less power they have over your mind and body.

Don't put bad limits on yourself. What you do depends on how you define yourself. So, for example, if you think of yourself as someone who always has bad romantic relationships, you've already ruined your chances of having a good one. It's a story you tell yourself, and because you believe it, you'll already be acting in ways that make the story true.

Identify your core values. You don't want to be defined by things outside of yourself, because things outside of you are unstable and change all the time. You will be more likely to have a stable sense of who you are if you base it on your core values. [5]

You won't lose your sense of self if you build it on things like compassion, courage, and honesty that are important to you.

Make a list of these values and try to live your life in a way that shows you care about them. So, if one of your core values is courage, stand up for someone being picked on at the bus stop. If one of your core values is honesty, admit that you lost your dad's favourite watch. If kindness is on that list, you could spend some time helping out at a homeless shelter.

Think of good ways to describe yourself. This doesn't mean you don't think about the bad things that have happened to you or the bad things you have done. They are a part of you just as much as the good things, but they don't define you.

This means don't let outside circumstances rule your identity. This comes from inside you, from the core values you already know are important to who you are.

Know that the bad things that have happened to you have taught you something. For example, if you have had bad experiences with love, you should learn from them. What have they taught you about how you want to live your life?